The TRUE valentine

Valentine’s….can be so painful.

If you’re single’ if you’re unhappy in your relationship, if you’re cheating and can’t be with the one you want to be instead of being with the one you are with.  If you feel obligated to dish out lots of cash on overpriced flowers and a perfect dinner, then you have missed the point. Valentine’s isn’t the opportunity to make it up to the one you love…..yet for so many that is exactly what it is used for.

Truth is, Valentine’s is an illusion and a trap and getting out of the trap is easy.

Valentine’s is all made up out of the notion of romantic love.  It is designed to keep the spark alive and it barely does the job.  Are you ready to move into real love – yes, after the blossom of romantic love has past….there is real love.  In this powerful stage of loving one another, the focus is on the relationship instead of each other or oneself.  The true valentine is holding a sacred focus for the relationship that communicates ‘this relationship is valued’ and it is achieved through on-going courtship.  As I have often said, ‘the pain of life is in the details, so is the pleasure’.

This Valentine’s, I invite you to be in service of the relationship.

Happy Valentine’s Day!

Owen